And long before that, he repeatedly shut me out, choosing to bury himself in his work to avoid what was happening to us at home. I told myself it was OK because he preferred to work anyway and always seemed grouchy on family outings.Blame was my coping mechanism to get through the first difficult months of our separation, and "how dare he (gasp! I rallied an entire army of supporters who, like me, were totally, utterly and completely aghast at the nerve -- the gall -- of this man. I deflected any and all culpability in the failure of my marriage for months, holding on to the picture I painted of myself as the gentle, selfless and long-suffering wife. I chose most nights to cuddle with them in our bed, blaming his late-night bedtimes and snoring for the sleeping arrangement. I didn't set (or enforce) boundaries with my parents. " Instead of building up his ego, I trampled all over it.The first thing you need to do is leave your girlfriend alone for a while. She just went from one short term relationship to another. Soon, her new relationship will end she will be in a new relationship, probably with you and hopefully for a very long time.In this case, I’d generally recommend you to move on from this short term relationship. Just like in the guide, you must analyze why you guys broke up and whether or not it’s really a good idea to get your ex girlfriend back. Of course, you are never going to ask her directly to breakup with the new boyfriend to be with you (not until you are 100% sure she will say yes). If you do, you will end up being friendzoned and before you know it, she will always be discussing her relationship problems with you.My husband, quite literally, married my entire family. As we grew more comfortable (read: lazy) in our relationship, I stopped trying to take the sting out it. As our marriage crumbled, I found myself constantly looking for faults and mistakes so that I could justify my superiority. I know it sounds odd to suggest there is a right way to fight. I tended to keep the peace in our house by keeping my mouth shut when things were really bothering me.
I know just imagining the girl you love in someone else’s arm is infuriating. And if you want your ex girlfriend back even though she has another boyfriend, you have to start looking at things from a more neutral perspective.And by rage, I mean rage in the clinical, mental-health definition kind of way.After the fact, I'd justify my anger by saying that a woman can only take so much.And if you want that, she should come back to you knowing that you are the best option for her. I know it’s a little hard to accept considering the off chance that this one does work out. And the reward of this risk is getting her back in your life. If you and your girlfriend had been dating for a very short time (like a month or two weeks).Not just because she is confused about her emotions. Here is a few questions that might creep into your mind when I say this. In this case, since your relationship wasn’t very strong in the first place, she is not technically with a rebound guy. I know it’s a hard fact to accept, but it’s the truth. And now she is in a relationship with someone else.The spouse feels like all he/she ever does is put up and put out and that they never get anything back in return.