There are endless aphorisms about love and dating that get branded into our brains from a very young age. But the worst one is the notion that you must learn to love yourself before you can love anyone else. Because it fails to take into account histories of mental difference.
The experience of social rejection is likely to have a negative impact on symptoms of depression, which this study suggests is likely to result in turn in a further increased risk of rejection in future interactions.
After each “date,” each participant gave another rating of their current emotions, and at the end of the evening they indicated whether or not they were interested in seeing each of their partners again.
The more symptoms of depression participants had, the more likely they were to be rejected by their potential romantic partners, as indicated by saying they would not like to meet with them again.
If communication is the key to a healthy relationship, this little nugget of fake news says those of us who might not love ourselves at all times aren’t allowed in the conversation and must lead lives free of love. I have been a depressed person for as long as I can remember, now that I have the language for it.
There was the time in kindergarten when I looked up at the sky and asked why I’ll always be a little “off,” the time when my crush repeatedly asked why I was sad all the time in second grade, and the My Chemical Romance songs that resonated a little too deeply within me in junior high.